tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post2728801724804023411..comments2024-03-11T06:27:38.308-07:00Comments on AND SEW IT GOES: HorribleTerry Granthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16650965451863656517noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-71989231155295093402010-11-11T02:16:52.537-08:002010-11-11T02:16:52.537-08:00How it is possible was actually what my Masters de...How it is possible was actually what my Masters degree thesis is about. Long explanation cut short - there are many theories which all intersect and which boil down to a complex interlinking of cultural norms supporting violence and others not preventing them, family history(the vast majority of domestic violence perpetrators witnessed violence themselves in childhood) and personality factors. In cases such as this a depressive mental health issue can also play a part - a (incorrect but firmly held) beleif that this is the only way out of the loss felt from family break up. It is a very complex topic indeed. But I can confirm that having a criminologists view of it does not remove in any way the emotional horror.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06589254083891378425noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-48492844638601640352010-10-24T18:26:37.073-07:002010-10-24T18:26:37.073-07:00Forgive? I don't THINK so. This is beyond for...Forgive? I don't THINK so. This is beyond forgiveness. Oh, Terry, I may be geographically close to this horror and can't even imagine how knowing this poor mother and grandparents must affect you. I don't know how anyone survives this horrendous loss. There is no comfort in this situation.Raynahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02981832263645584878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-91356107425224528792010-10-22T18:51:56.280-07:002010-10-22T18:51:56.280-07:00Words fail me. I can’t imagine the pain that famil...Words fail me. I can’t imagine the pain that family must be in. It makes my heart ache.Revalanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15523121402264988240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-57069304120189061192010-10-22T18:48:52.258-07:002010-10-22T18:48:52.258-07:00The "how" it is possible, from the mothe...The "how" it is possible, from the mother's/wife's point of view, isn't the only thing unknowable. The pain and darkness the father/husband walked through also can't be fully known. Don't forget that when he was at his best, he was joyfully loved and the people you love fully enjoyed him. Yes, mourn, grieve and let your compassion be known. Forgive, as best you can. But don't forget his legacy isn't just his last actions. Celebrate the best of his story, too. And let God redeem the rest.Carolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-88897482706734117042010-10-21T19:11:54.302-07:002010-10-21T19:11:54.302-07:00I can't imagine how one deals with this sort o...I can't imagine how one deals with this sort of tragedy. It's not something you can just start over. Any mental health issues the rest of us have pale in comparison to what that young woman and her remaining family must feel.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18356998698106275372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-74299701931839767852010-10-21T14:49:11.983-07:002010-10-21T14:49:11.983-07:00It is a truly horrible event and the effect on tha...It is a truly horrible event and the effect on that family is unimaginable. Some things can't be explained, I think, or at least can't be explained from afar. Gerrie's comment about not knowing what is in people's souls is so true. This makes me want to hold my family extra close.Diane Perinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07447372718275554860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-25277376375945774192010-10-21T10:52:06.368-07:002010-10-21T10:52:06.368-07:00It seems so much more real when you are connected....It seems so much more real when you are connected. It'a a tough world.Howardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14482283869347786066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-76205456112212717352010-10-21T09:55:52.334-07:002010-10-21T09:55:52.334-07:00This is just horrid. I am sending the family and ...This is just horrid. I am sending the family and friends like you positive energy~~pollyannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05029984743142857736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-10268214437854925562010-10-21T08:58:49.213-07:002010-10-21T08:58:49.213-07:00We can not know the darkness that some people harb...We can not know the darkness that some people harbor in their souls. I have had two friends who lost their beautiful daughters when their husbands senselessly murdered them. It changes the family forever.Gerriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06292762162661584206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-61317046504816121852010-10-21T08:16:59.197-07:002010-10-21T08:16:59.197-07:00How is it possible? Selfishness. Total, tantrumm...How is it possible? Selfishness. Total, tantrumming selfishness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-59864287665277410272010-10-21T02:23:04.038-07:002010-10-21T02:23:04.038-07:00Hi Terri. How dreadful. Here in the UK there have ...Hi Terri. How dreadful. Here in the UK there have been a few cases recently of fathers killing their children and then themselves, usually during a marriage or partnership breakup of some kind. These cases are beginning to show signs of becoming a very worrying trend. For the life of me, I cannot understand it...................Grangryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16949099501135314987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16634800.post-5743495758305940892010-10-21T02:14:20.601-07:002010-10-21T02:14:20.601-07:00I live very close to this and it has been horrible...I live very close to this and it has been horrible , the news on tv and papers has been featuring these families<br />my heart goes out to this mom and the families<br />its so sad...<br />Kathieantique quilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15379983489980682690noreply@blogger.com